By Odunmorayo Oke
02 August 2024 |
10:12 am 
Going on a first date can bring some anxiety and could be a nerve-wracking experience. Why? Because you want to make a good first impression, but you don’t want to overdo it and potentially scare the other person away. Additionally, you’ll have to balance basic etiquette while engaging in witty conversations and presenting your best…
Going on a first date can bring some anxiety and could be a nerve-wracking experience. Why? Because you want to make a good first impression, but you don’t want to overdo it and potentially scare the other person away.
Additionally, you’ll have to balance basic etiquette while engaging in witty conversations and presenting your best self throughout the date, all at once. Undoubtedly, it sounds like a lot at first glance.
What’s important is to remember that a first date is about getting to know someone, and that can be best done without feeling pressured to be “perfect.” So, here’s a cheat sheet to help you navigate things to not do on a first date.
Here are some common first-date mistakes to avoid:
1. Arriving late
Nigerian time may apply to owambes and clubbing nights, but it certainly does not apply while going on a first date. Being punctual and showing up on time shows that you respect the other person’s time. Always try to be punctual and arrive at least 10-15 minutes early.
2. Being on your phone
Unless you’re expecting a call from the Queen of England, please put your phone away. We assume the timing of your date falls during a period where you have no work obligations so your boss shouldn’t be ringing up your line. Constantly checking your phone or being distracted by it can make the other person feel ignored or unimportant. Keep your phone away and be present in the moment. Your date should have your undivided attention.
3. Not giving personal space
There’s a romance term called “slow burn” which applies to going on first dates. While conversations and drinks may be flowing effortlessly, try to respect the other person’s personal space. Keep your hands to yourself, and don’t get too close too soon as you could make them feel uncomfortable.
4. Drinking heavily
While a moderate amount of alcohol can help ease the nerves, drinking excessively can lead to behaviour and statements that could ruin the date. It’s okay to relax and have a drink or two, but remember that consuming too much alcohol can lead to awkward moments and questionable decisions.
5. Asking personal questions
Keep your questions light and fun, and avoid talking about sensitive subjects like childhood trauma, past relationships, and income range. Asking deeply personal questions can be seen as intrusive and insensitive. You want to save those for later if there is a “later.” But while you’re on the date, keep the conversation light and get to know the other person gradually.
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6. Expecting to split the bill
Assuming the other person will split the bill or pay for the entire date can be presumptuous. It’s best to have a conversation about who will pay beforehand or offer to split the bill.
7. Expecting a kiss or sex afterward
Don’t assume that the date will lead to physical intimacy. Let the other person set the pace and boundaries for the relationship.
Finally, the key to going on a first date is to be mindful, respectful and focused on getting to know the other person. Following the seven
tips mentioned above can set grounds for a successful connection.
